A week ago Friday I found out my father was dead. I've been estranged from my family since 2013.
My father died a month ago. Not one of my supposedly Christian family members felt a need to
inform me! It was not an easy decision to leave, and I felt immense guilt and grief leaving.
I just couldn't take the abuse anymore. Catching up on emails today I found an email from my
bank that read, "Action needed to complete your request. We need more information to update
and/or manage the accounts of (my father's name.)"
It then instructed me to go to the message center. I didn't click on anything in the message, and
sent a copy of the email to Security at my bank thinking it was phishing. Then went on to check the
message center on my bank's website. They want a death certificate! Someone had contacted
them--the email said "to complete your request." Can't figure out who would have done that,
maybe a lawyer? No one in my house, so I assume it is the executor of the my father's estate?
My husband's job took us to a foreign country for a year many years ago, and the company
wanted you to make a will and have someone take care of bills and such here in the states.
Still close to my family then, so I chose my father, adding him to the bank account for bills.
Starting in 2007 I asked my father to come to my bank and sign papers taking his name off
our account, (he lived a couple of hours away.) He always had an excuse why that wasn't possible.
I ended up moving the money into a new account because I lost a checkbook, but because my
father wouldn't come sign the papers, I've had to leave money in that old account since 2007.
The minimum, of course, but a pain to keep track of. Does anyone know anything about who would
have started this process? Don't know anything about wills and such, I'm freaking out!
I don't want any contact with my family. Never had to get a death certificate, so I'll have to do that,
too. Thought I'd done all my grieving, and now this has destroyed what peace I've finally achieved.
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It would be helpful if you had the date he died.
You will likely have to prove you are his daughtet to get the certificate.
Good luck!
Call the county vital stats office where he died. They will have the death cert.
You might need your birth cert & marriage license to prove your claim to his death cert.
I have a friend who found out their asshole narcissistic brother was dead through one of those online search places, but did not specify where the guy died. They tried to hire a private detective to learn where he died because there was a hefty chunk of change sitting in unclaimed property & all siblings needed to split the inheritance. Nobody can find that info, so I'm glad you have the death notice.
It waa like pulling teeth to learn which county the guy died in, but the vital stats lady in the county where the bulk of the family had lived & died just asked that she email her drivers license to prove her identity, then the lady contacted the state vital stats to get the info.
In the end, it all worked out, but what a pita!
Good luck! And don't forget to check unclaimed property. You might have a surprise as well. 
Pls feel free to pm me if you need further help.