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Tommy Carcetti

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49. I remember the day I closed on buying my first house...

Sun Sep 28, 2025, 09:33 PM

Sunday

…I stopped at a stoplight and saw a homeless woman with a sign.

Occasionally I would give a dollar or so to such a person.

But something about that day, where I was lucky enough to be purchasing my first home and it was possible this woman had no home at all…it made me feel a little different.

So I gave her a $20 bill instead. Didn’t expect much of a reaction but I do remember her feeling overjoyed and grateful…all for a $20 bill.

I get it. Sometimes you wonder if you’re doing it for them or yourself. But if someone is truly needy, I’m sure it’s appreciated.

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