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40. You did not fail her. You took her in and loved her for years and years. I know you are greiving but don't please stop

Reply to AZ8theist (Original post)

Wed Mar 18, 2026, 11:07 AM

23 hrs ago

beating yourself up. I know how you feel because it happened to me. I let a little dog get overweight without realizing she had heart valve problems. It took me a while to accept that we loved her and how happy her life was. Please be kind to yourself right now.

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We had to put my little sweatheart down Saturday night. [View all] AZ8theist Yesterday OP

My deepest condolences. sinkingfeeling Yesterday #1

I am so sorry for your loss. BlueKota Yesterday #2

My deepest sympathies and condolences. AltairIV Yesterday #3

Dogs are good people Zelda_Orchid Yesterday #4

The best Dave says Yesterday #22

Oh AZ8theist, you didn't fail her. You did the best you could with the knowledge you had at the time. femmedem Yesterday #5

You did not fail her malaise Yesterday #6

Dear Peanut, cross gently over the Rainbow Bridge FakeNoose Yesterday #7

Crossing The Rainbow Bridge by Stella Violano George McGovern Yesterday #8

I LOVE that!! 70sEraVet Yesterday #10

Oh WOW. What a beautiful painting! Tears beginning ..... Diamond_Dog Yesterday #26

I, too, deal with guilt over the death of my last dog. 70sEraVet Yesterday #9

Rest gently Peanut lonely bird Yesterday #11

I'm so sorry AZ8theist, please be kind to yourself today. JMCKUSICK Yesterday #12

I'm so sorry mountain grammy Yesterday #13

My sympathies to you and your clan. Swede Yesterday #14

I am so so very sorry for your loss. irisblue Yesterday #15

I am so sorry. LoisB Yesterday #16

Lady of the Beasts, please take your little Peanut gently home in Your niyad Yesterday #17

Condolences gademocrat7 Yesterday #18

I'm so sorry for your loss. You did not fail her. Phoenix61 Yesterday #19

I am so sorry get the red out Yesterday #20

Sorry for your loss. Americanme Yesterday #21

You did the right thing you stopped your friend from hurting but that doesn't stop you from feeling the hurt 2. Botany Yesterday #23

What a beautiful girl. StarryNite Yesterday #24

So sorry for your loss. FalloutShelter Yesterday #25

You did not fail her. kellytore Yesterday #27

You gave Peanut a loving home for ten years. That counts for everything. Diamond_Dog Yesterday #28

I'm sorry AZ8theist 😥 Aw Peanut Clouds Passing Yesterday #29

Deepest condolences on the loss of Peanut. virgdem Yesterday #30

My profound condolences to you. kairos12 Yesterday #31

So sorry for your loss, AZ8theist. democrank Yesterday #32

It is hard saying goodbye to a family member LetMyPeopleVote Yesterday #33

So sorry about Peanut. But you didn't fail her. Bluepinky Yesterday #34

Thank you for saying this, Bluepinky EuterpeThelo 11 hrs ago #76

I love everything about your response. Bluepinky 9 hrs ago #81

You may not be a "believer" Mme. Defarge Yesterday #35

My dear AZ8theist, you absolutely, positively did NOT fail your beloved Peanut! First of all, you rescued her! Second, LaMouffette Yesterday #36

Love this, LM. Thanks for sharing and I hope it brings some comfort to the OP. EuterpeThelo 11 hrs ago #77

My deepest condolences for the loss of your husband, EuterpeThelo. I had a visit from my mom the same night she passed. LaMouffette 2 hrs ago #84

Thanks, LM. EuterpeThelo 1 hr ago #85

Very sorry for your loss of Peanut. Prairie_Seagull Yesterday #37

I am so sorry, AZ8theist. My deepest condolences to you and your family. HeartsCanHope 23 hrs ago #38

Oh no, you didn't fail her... r�is�n_dubh 23 hrs ago #39

You did not fail her. You took her in and loved her for years and years. I know you are greiving but don't please stop ratchiweenie 23 hrs ago #40

Such a sweet face PatSeg 23 hrs ago #41

Peanut was beautiful dog 🐕😍 MustLoveBeagles 23 hrs ago #42

Dear AZ8theist, You did not fail Peanut Grim Chieftain 23 hrs ago #43

rest in peace peanut. i am so sorry for the loss of your fur baby az8theist dawn5651 22 hrs ago #44

Oh, AZ8theist, the sorrow and overwhelming loss you are feeling is the sure sign that your Peanut had the best and KitFox 22 hrs ago #45

I am so sorry for you Scubamatt 22 hrs ago #46

My heart goes out to you. chowder66 22 hrs ago #47

Good advice. And same for humans. Dental health affects the rest of the body... CousinIT 21 hrs ago #48

So sorry for your loss - TBF 21 hrs ago #49

We've been there! Lulu KC 21 hrs ago #50

Deepest condolences SheltieLover 21 hrs ago #51

I'm so sorry. area51 21 hrs ago #52

I'm so sorry for your loss of sweet Peanut. My sympathy livetohike 20 hrs ago #53

Prayers for your broken heart 💔 Ten years of tender loving care gave Peanut her best life so now she can rest in peace Deuxcents 20 hrs ago #54

I am so sorry cate94 20 hrs ago #55

Oh no leftstreet 20 hrs ago #56

RIP Peanut Figarosmom 20 hrs ago #57

Please do not blame yourself. Bumbles 18 hrs ago #58

Please be as gentle with yourself as you would be with a friend in your shoes. pat_k 18 hrs ago #59

so very sorry peacebuzzard 18 hrs ago #60

I'm so sorry for your loss doubleplusgood 18 hrs ago #61

so sorry AZ8theist Skittles 18 hrs ago #62

I'm So Sorry NEOH 18 hrs ago #63

I am so sorry, AZ8theist. It wasn't your fault. May the memories of sweet Peanut be a blessing to you. debm55 17 hrs ago #64

I'm so very sorry stage left 16 hrs ago #65

I'm so sorry! redwitch 16 hrs ago #66

Peanut would not want you to blame yourself and feel guilty senseandsensibility 16 hrs ago #67

Nothing prepares us for the loss of a loved one. 💧💔 littlemissmartypants 15 hrs ago #68

I am so sorry for your loss! debsy 15 hrs ago #69

You loved her, you didn't fail her Raine 15 hrs ago #70

You couldn't possibly have failed her. Buddyzbuddy 15 hrs ago #71

I am so sorry for your loss Wicked Blue 14 hrs ago #72

This was a big help to me the last time we went through this. Abolishinist 14 hrs ago #73

I spent $4,000 on my Chihuahua's teeth BigmanPigman 14 hrs ago #74

I'm so sorry, AZ8theist. We are still not over missing our little guy, Buddy. He was the best. summer_in_TX 11 hrs ago #75

It's normal tp blame yourself in your grief. soldierant 11 hrs ago #78

You loved that dog, you didn't fail it. Give yourself a break, losing a dog is tough enough. dem4decades 10 hrs ago #79

I'm sorry you're hurting JoseBalow 10 hrs ago #80

Very sad Old Crank 6 hrs ago #82

I'm so sorry for your loss wendyb-NC 3 hrs ago #83